is it considered appropriate for a man to host a family gathering without a shirt...

[Kathy Z]

...on? I found it offensive.? My daughter and son in law hosted a birthday party for myself and his dad at their new home. It was July 19th, a hot and sunny day. When we arrived my son in law had no shirt on and stayed that way the entire party. I was so embarressed when my dad and my mother in law arrived. I have been to many parties over my 49 years but have never been to a party where the man has no shirt on (unless it was a swim party). Am I being over sensitive? I asked my daughter about it when she dropped the baby off this morning and she just said he has hot and didn't seem to see anything wrong with it.

[Drakona]

I don't believe it was appropriate either..he should have hydrated himself, instead of taking his shirt off

[The fiercest: Jenny]

Jees...talk about Victorian principles.Maybe if he didn't have pants on, I'd worry lol No offense, but you really need to lighten up.

[Summer♥Lover]

wow of all the things--the nerve of some guy hosting a party wanting to do as he wishes! And not wearing a shirt bc it was hot--wow tsk tsk!Um I think you're freaking out for no reason and should mellow out. He was nice enough to host a party for you, least you can do is mind your manners and not complain about what someone was or wasn't wearing.And when you can't be yourself within your own family without needing such rules and ettiquette that's just sad. Of all the things to complain about-this is not worth it!

[Sufi]

this is a cultural matter. it will depend on tradition and values and culture. there is no hard and fast right and wrong. it would not bother me at all. different people have different reactions.

[Your Highness]

If he was outside barbecuing or something, I don't see anything wrong with it, especially if its a very hot and sunny day. Now if it was totally an indoor party and nobody was going outside at all, then...yea, that's a little weird. I don't think it's offensive, just weird.

[arklatexrat]

You should have discreetly said something about it to your daughter at the time, and asked her to insist that her husband put on a shirt as it was making you uncomfortable. To bring it up later is a little like rubbing the puppy's nose in the poop after the fact--the moment to object had passed.You have to weigh it all out though and realize that if they don't care & won't change you will either have to suffer in silence or risk not being able to attend these family gatherings, as it's their home, their rules.

[tggrbounce9]

Depends on what type of party this was. If it was a nice sit down then yes. BBQ, outside, people having fun then no.

[originata]

A little of both. I think you are overreacting some to even dwell on this, bring it up with your daughter and then to be on Yahoo Answers lol, but it was probably just simply poor taste on his part. I don't think it was that bad of an offense especially being in his own house.

[Sara S]

I agree with you. I think society today is losing it's sense of etiquecy. I'm constantly fighting my boyfriend to put on a shirt that hasn't had the sleeves cut off. It embarrasses me when he tries to go out like that! It's a constant battle because he thinks I'm just uptight. But he was also raised to believe that flatulence is a normal thing for the dinner table. I have my work cut out for me!