My husband won't touch me anymore b/c I gained weight.. are all men so...

[Kayla]

...superficial? (opinion..pics)? I gained a lot of weight with my pregnancy. I had an eating disorder for 11 years, and although I had gestational diabetes while I was pregnant and had to maintain a very strict and healthy diet, they weight just PILED on. FAST. I weighed about 130 when my husband and I were married, and now I'm much heavier. Everyone says I'm still pretty, but I think they're just being nice.. Please look at all the pics (I promise they are safe, I'm linking from my photobucket acct.) and tell me the truth. Does my husband ignore me and refuse to touch me because I'm completely disgusting now? When we were married:http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v3...20me/dork.jpg8 months pregnant: http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v3...erte.jpgReally sick before we were married:http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v3...untitled34.jpg

[carlg340]

yes your fat, but if he will not do you i would happily, your very attractive (if a little meaty!) tell me are you adventurous enough in bed? is that the real problem?

[80's RULE!]

i know that you don't want to hear this, but you have gained a lot of weight. you are still beautiful, and I'm being honest. you are not "completely disgusting" in these pictures. if he doesn't love you no matter what, then he's a schmuck. talk to him, and talk to a doctor about some ways to get healthy. i completely understand where you are coming from, since you've had health issues. the most important thing, is to get healthy. you are still a beautiful person, and your husband needs to see that.i'm sure he isn't "mr. perfect" still.good luck.

[pogiguy05]

well I hate to say this but if he does not want to touch his wife then he did not really love you to begin with my dear. Honestly and I do not mean to be cruel but just honest. you are still cute now and if you try and at least try to loose weight you can at least say you tried. I am not one to judge as I am 41yo and could use to loose about 50lbs myself.I am an emotional eater and I have many things that make me loose control of my eating. I am however tired of my back hurting from time to time so I need to do what it takes to loose weight. but do it for yourself not him. He should love you no matter what.good luckthe last two pics I think you look hot but hey I am just a 41yo pervert LOL

[applestory]

oh.u look good b4 haiz mayb (srry) but if that's the reason is his fault ..he touches b4 rite ? then mayb tat's the reason lose weight about 50 + and see whether he still like u or not ...he's not true to u....

[chillinbabe213]

your nt disgusting but ill b honest plz dont get offended.u have put on quite a bit n u looked better b4.u r still v pretty dnt get me wrong..it is hard after hving a baby,n health issues too.ask ure doctor n try n eat healty exercise..do things with ure baby like walks...aqua sports etc...u will lose it again!n if ure stressed dont eat! dance,smoke,go for a walk relive it anotherway...men r like that they dnt understand wat they put us thru or wat we hve to go thru!be confident n ull get thru it,,,dnt let him put u down.be strong girl!

[grneyedgrly]

First things first,,,You are NOT completely disgusting. I'm going to be honest. You have a beautiful face, but yes you are a little on the chubby side. However, if this doesn't bother you then I don't see why it should bother someone else. As for your husband, I think the poor guy is so stuck on what your body USED to be. After children a woman's body goes through changes. Your husband needs to understand that. I think that love shouldn't be conditional like the way it sounds on your husbands end. When I was married my husband packed on a bit of weight and it didn't make me love him any less or be less attracted to him. When you truly love someone you're not in love with what's on the outside. Have you ever tried talking to him about your weight? If you feel that bad about your weight, I suggest diet and exercise. It's hard to start but it's not impossible. And you are a beautiful woman, nobody is just saying that to be nice. You are very pretty. Disgusting is a bit bold, I wouldn't agree with that one. Try a new diet plan and stick to it. This is if YOU want it. Don't do it for your husband because you will begin to resent him for it. I do suggest talking to him about it and tell him it's been on your mind and it's bothering you.

[Thorsten Hohmann]

I think there is probably more to the situation than that. I have a very strong feeling that it's not just about you gaining some weight.Is he stressed out? Are you stressed out? Are either or both of you really busy and have very little time.I suggest the fallowing.1. take up some yoga, running, push ups sit ups whatever... Take care of yourself for your own sake.2. Plan some alone time with just the two of you, get a baby sitter.. Go have a nice romantic dinner, see a movie, or attend a nice event.3. What does your heart tell you?

[male.confused]

There is a definition for ***y and that is NOT being flabby.

[Linni]

You are still pretty, despite being overweight. It's sad if your hubby won't have *** or show affection because of your weight. True love doesn't care. One saying is "Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who respects God is to be praised". No one can keep their looks forever, and no one should expect anyone else to do so, either. It's unrealistic, unless you are rich enough to afford regular plastic surgery and lipo! At the same time, just for health reasons, I do think it's wise to try and start some kind of fitness/health program. Esp. since you had gest. diabetes. This increases your risks after pregnancy, and you should try everything not to get it. I've seen some of my family members die from diabetes-related complications--not very nice.